For many, losing a loved one is one of the hardest things we go through, and arranging a funeral can be overwhelming. When your loved one is a member of the LGBTQ+ community, there are a couple of extra considerations.
Arranging a funeral that celebrates your loved one’s unique personality is perhaps the best way you can honour them, and this may include their LGBTQ+ identity.
Arranging A Funeral For An LGBTQ+ Person
Some LGBTQ+ people may have particular wishes for their funerals. This could include:
- Names and pronouns
- Who will dress them
- How your loved one would like to be dressed, including clothes, accessories and makeup
- Who your loved one would like to attend
- Gender-affirming items for packing, padding or binding
If you can, try to record your loved one’s wishes so that you can give them an LGBTQ+ funeral that truly celebrates them. At Legacy of Lives, you can securely store your loved one’s wishes in a free funeral plan, which can be shared with funeral directors or other friends and family when the time comes.
Choosing An LGBTQ+ Friendly Funeral Director
Finding an understanding funeral director may help to make arranging an LGBTQ+ funeral easier. Many funeral directors have experience working with LGBTQ+ families and are committed to providing a flexible, transparent and inclusive service.
Involving The LGBTQ+ Community
If your loved one was part of their local LGBTQ+ community, they can be a fantastic support during your grieving process. Involving organisations and people in the community will allow your loved one’s LGBTQ+ funeral to be truly meaningful.
Arranging A Funeral For An LGBTQ+ Person Who Hasn’t Come Out
Understanding whether your loved one has come out is important when arranging a funeral, as it allows you to respect their identity and provide a safe space to grieve and celebrate their life.
Some people may choose to keep their LGBTQ+ identity private. If this is the case, there are a few ways that you may want to honour your loved one’s wishes:
- Using correct names and pronouns
- Understanding what your loved one would have been comfortable sharing
- Ensuring that respectful and understanding mourners attend their funeral
By storing your loved one’s wishes in our secure funeral planner, you can ensure only the essential people can access your loved one’s private information. This means you can still honour them without outing or misgendering them during their funeral.
Losing a loved one is never easy, and arranging an LGBTQ+ funeral can be challenging. At Legacy of Lives, we can support you in arranging a funeral that celebrates your loved one’s life and honours their identity. Please click here to get started with a free funeral plan for your loved one.